Words of Love by Dying Husbands...
- Published on Saturday, 17 October 2015 01:39
- Written by Stanton O Berg
The Bible tells us: “Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away…these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." (1 Corinthians 13)
The Bible also specifically instructs Christian husbands on loving their wives..
Ephesians 5:25 tells husbands: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it..."
In other words the Bible tells husband to love their wives with a love that is willing to give up their lives to protect their wives...the Bible demands a sacrificial love for their wives...just 3 verses later the bible tells of the value to the husbands for such a level of love:
"Men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself."
History has often times recorded the last words of a dying husbands to be words of love for their wives…often times it is a wife that has preceded them in death…a wife that they now expect to join up with…sometimes it is a wife who is being left behind…the sincerity and the truthfulness of such dying statements of love can never be in doubt…to me such words are nothing short of a beautiful form of poetry at life’s end…If there can be beauty in death, then this is such beauty…they also demonstrate a Christians deep faith…
Such dying words, suggest a glimpse of heaven and of a wife awaiting such a reunion…the words are usually always those of a devoted husband looking forward to his place in Heaven…a place and a home provided by a loving God...while there are no traditional husband and wife relationship in Heaven, God through the Bible, has promised us that the family circle will be once again unbroken...this may be one of God’s greatest gifts…
This end of life poetry may be a single word or it may be a simple short statement of love…
This is my collection of such words of a husband’s love…they span the years, the decades and even the centuries…
Only the Words of Once Married Husbands are Included...Multiple Marriage Husbands are Not Included as They Have Not Demonstrated The Faithful Love of a Lifetime...Most Husband's Will Fall Short When the Requirement is That Their Love be For a Lifetime.
Jimmy Stewart - 2 July 1997
“I’m going to go to be with Gloria now!”
Jimmy Stewart did not marry until age 41, when he married former model Gloria Hatrick McLean…she was then age 31…they were married on August 9, 1949.
As Stewart loved to tell the story: "I, I, I pitched the big question to her last night and to my surprise she, she, she said yes!"…Stewart adopted her two sons, Michael and Ronald…and later with Gloria they had twin daughters, Judy and Kelly.
The couple remained married until her death from lung cancer on February 16, 1994, at the age of 75…they were married for almost 45 years…Jimmy never remarried and died some 3 years later…
Jimmy like his friend Ronald Reagan, were both staunch Republicans and dedicated Christians...Jimmy was described as a lifelong, devout Presbyterian.
In December 1996, Stewart was due to have the battery in his pacemaker changed, but opted not to, preferring to let things happen naturally. In February 1997, Stewart was hospitalized for an irregular heartbeat. On June 25, a thrombosis formed in his right leg, resulting in a pulmonary embolism a few days later…
Surrounded by his children on July 2, 1997, Stewart died at the age of 89 at his home in Beverly Hills, California, with his final words to his family being:
"I'm going to be with Gloria now!"
Joe DiMaggio - 11 March 1999
“I Finally get to see Marilyn”
Joe DiMaggio and Marilyn Monroe were married on 14 January 1954…their marriage lasted a little less then a year…Marilyn filed for divorce after “a yelling match” in a theater lobby”
After the failure of their marriage, DiMaggio had to undergo therapy which resulted in his discontinuing all alcohol…DiMaggio who was still very much in love with Marilyn, expanded his interests beyond baseball…he and Marilyn renewed their friendship and were said to read poetry together in later years…
Marilyn Monroe was born 1 June 1926 and died 5 August 1962 at the age of 36. She was found dead in her Brentwood, Los Angeles, home on August 5. Marilyn’s death was deemed a probable drug suicide by Coroner Thomas Noguchi…Marilyn was said to have been under psychiatric care …her death has since been the subject of a number of conspiracy theories…Note: Coroner Noguchi is both June and my friend…we all took part in the first ever, forensic science conference in the Soviet Union in 1969…we later exchanged Christmas cards in the following years…I am satisfied with Coroner Noguchi’s findings…
DiMaggio was said to have decided to ask Monroe to remarry him just days before her death...
Devastated by her death, DiMaggio claimed her body and arranged for her funeral at the Westwood Village Memorial Park Cemetery. DiMaggio thereafter, arranged to have a half-dozen red roses delivered three times a week to her crypt for 20 years…He never married again.
DiMaggio, a heavy smoker, was admitted to Memorial Regional Hospital in Hollywood, Florida, on October 12, 1998, for lung cancer surgery…he later died at home on March 8th, 1999 at the age of 84.
As a devoted Catholic, DiMaggio's funeral was held on March 11, 1999, at Sts. Peter and Paul Roman Catholic Church in San Francisco…he was later buried at the Holy Cross Cemetery in Colma, California.
When he died surrounded by his family, his last words were said to have been:
“I'll finally get to see Marilyn"
President Rutherford B. Hayes - 17 January 1893
"I Know That I'm Going Where Lucy Is."
President Hayes was born 4 October 1822 in Delaware, Ohio and died 17 January 1893 at Fremont, Ohio at the age of 70 years. His final resting place was Spiegel Grove State Park in Fremont, Ohio.
The President's wife Lucy Webb was born 28 August 1831 in Chilicothe, Ohio and died 25 June 1889 at the age of 57 years.
At the time that Hayes first met Lucy, he was practicing law in Cincinnati where the two began dating seriously. He proposed in June 1851. Hayes was aged 30, when he married Lucy who was then aged 21, on December 30, 1852. The marriage was at the home of the bride’s mother in Cincinnati, Ohio…(It was 100 years later in 1952 that June and I were married.) After the wedding, the couple honeymooned at the home of the groom’s sister and brother-in-law in Columbus, Ohio.
They were both devout Methodists...Lucy would join the president in saying prayers after breakfast and she presided over group hymn sings with the cabinet and congressmen on Sunday evenings, "singing with great joy in her warm contralto voice."
During their years as President and First Lady, the Hayes family attended the Foundry Methodist Episcopal Church...when the Woman's Home Missionary Society of that denomination was organized in 1880, Lucy became its first president…The Lucy Webb Hayes Training School for Deaconesses in Washington, D.C. was named in her honor…Lucy spoke out often about the importance of the family, saying that with "American homes what they should be, we need not greatly fear the evils that threaten us from other lands.”
"The social highlight of the Hayes's years was their twenty-fifth wedding anniversary celebration, at which the President and the First Lady repeated their vows at a White House ceremony before many of the same guests who had attended the original nuptials in Cincinnati."
In 1881 they retired to Spiegel Grove in Fremont, Ohio. Lucy died of a stroke on June 25, 1889, and was buried at Spiegel Grove.
Hayes was greatly saddened by his wife's death in 1889. He wrote that "the soul had left" when she died. After Lucy's death, Hayes's daughter Fanny became his traveling companion, and he enjoyed visits from his grandchildren. Hayes died of complications of a heart attack at his home on January 17, 1893 His last words were
"I know that I'm going where Lucy is"
President James K. Polk - 4 March 1849
“I Love You Sarah, For All Eternity, I Love You…”
President Polk was born 2 November 1795 in Pineville, North Carolina and died 15 June 1849 in Nashville, Tennessee at the young age of 53…He was buried at the State Capital of Nashville, Tennessee.
The President’s wife Sarah Childress was born 4 September 1805 and died 14 August 1891 at the age of 87…
In 1823 the two became engaged, and on January 1, 1824, Sarah then, aged 20, married James Polk, aged 28, at the plantation home of the bride's parents near Murfreesboro… Sarah was a devout Presbyterian Christian…Although Polk was a Methodist, out of respect tor his wife Sarah, he would attend Presbyterian services with her…
Sarah was described as fairly tall, with black hair that was parted in the middle and worn in ringlets, dark brown eyes, and olive complexion… she was described as a "noble" beauty” who usually dressed in vibrant blues, reds and maroons… she was described as lively, charming, intelligent, and a good conversationalist… It should be of little surprise to find that Polk was madly in love with his wife…
Much like June, Sarah served a very active role in her husbands's life… Sarah assisted her husband with his speeches, gave him advice on policy matters and played an active role in his campaigns…
The President died a few months after leaving office… Sarah lived for 42 years, the longest retirement and widowhood of any former US First Lady…she always wore black. When she died in 1891 she was buried next to the president at their home in Nashville and was later re-interred with him at the Tennessee State Capitol….
"Clad always in black, Sarah Polk lived on in that home for 42 years, guarding the memory of her husband and accepting honors paid to her as honors due to him. The house became a place of pilgrimage..."
The president was described as full of enthusiasm and vigor when he first entered office…on leaving office in March 1849, he was exhausted by his years of public service. He was said to have “lost weight and had deep lines on his face and dark circles under his eyes.”…he contracted Cholera on a tour of the South after leaving office. He died of cholera at Polk Place, in Nashville on June 15, 1849…just three months after leaving office. Polk's last words to his wife Sarah demonstrated his devotion and his love for her:
I love you, Sarah. For all eternity, I love you”.
In many ways the relationship of the Polk's reminds me of June and our relationship...June like Sarah, was..totally unselfish and a devoted wife...while June was not a tall lady, June was also a stylish and attractive dresser that people enjoyed being around...a young niece once described June as..."the lady with a friendly smile and kind eyes"...
The photo of June and I on the right lower side was taken in 2002, the year of our 50th wedding anniversary and the 6th year of June's Alzheimer's...June was still in early stages of this terrible disease...we were living life to the fullest while compensating for June' s short term memory short comings...
Alzheimer's eventually destroyed June's mind so that in her 12th year of the disease and at her death, she could not utter even a single last word...we had just completed our 56th year of marriage...
I do however, clearly recall the day in our earlier years when we were both out looking for a suitable burial and final resting place of our own...June announced to me that ,
"Stan, if you were to go first, it would not be my intention to re-marry.".
While I may never utter a single last word on my last day or hour, I have often said of and to June that:
"I would love her until the sands of time had ceased their endless trickle.".
Diana Perera - Colombo, Sri Lanka - (17 October 2015): "Nice gesture Stanton - when this era has so many marriages short lived and ending in divorce."
Bonnie Seip - Ottsville, Pennsylvania - (17 October 2015): "He certainly was a Great Guy ! His last words to say "I'm going to be with Gloria now " , should tells us all how it really is when we die . I recently lost a very Dear Friend who had CANCER , she left behind a Wonderful husband and a daughter and Twin grandchildren for which. She only had the chance to spend just 2 yrs with them , they are 4 now . Her father passed away many yrs ago , and she was very close to her Dad, when I went to visit her she was showing signs of knowing she will be leaving this world soon . It was on a Friday when I visited her she kept reaching out with her hands as if she was wanting to hug someone , she stared at the ceiling as if she was listening to our Dear Lord talking to her . I asked her if she was ok , her reply was " Bon I'm waiting for Dad to come and pick me up " this reply from her made me cry BC I knew she meant her Dad was talking to her . With that she passed away the following TUESDAY ... God Bless her sole . Thank you Mr Berg for posting this very interesting belief about our man Jimmy Stewart ..."
Gloria Wressell - Andover, Minnesota - (17 October 2015): "Interesting. My grandpa saw my great grandpa before he died. My sister in law saw Jesus come for her."
Jackie Irving - Liverpool, United Kingdom - (17 October 2015): "Thank you for this wonderfully fascinating story Stan....I was totally surprised when you said James Stewart died in 1997...I thought for some reason it was many years before that he passed...im so looking forward to reading about other stars and their last words ...take care Stan."
Patricia Koch - Reedsville, Pennsylvania - (17 October 2015): "Stanton what a wonderful idea you have. Have to admit this was one of the first posts I read this morning and it brought a big lump in my throat! That's good cause that means you told a great true story. I loved it and keep them coming. Good luck to you in your new venture and if I can ever help I will let you know. Thanks again for sharing."
Denise Loftus - Flint, Clwyd, United Kingdom - (17 October 2015): "I remember when he (Stewart) was on the Michael Parkinson show in the UK and he read a beautiful emotional poem about the loss of his dog. It was very moving he always seemed like a lovely man. This is a lovely idea that you have..."
Sharon Kay Carey - Grand Terrace, California - (18 October 2015): "Great job, Stan! Jimmy Stewart is my favorite, all-time actor. I have an old book of poetry he wrote. Just a great guy all around! I appreciate your comments about Heaven as well. Thanks."
Vea Flood - Bronx, New York - (18 October 2015): "Thanks Stan (DiMaggio) I had heard about that and so appreciate reading this they always should have been together and they were going to be remarried...thanks again Stan!...(19 October):"Thank you Stan for another history lesson...what wonderful love stories yours w/June and President and Mrs Polk!!!"
Maureen Gray - Allston, Massachusetts - (18 October 2015): "Last Words About Wives is a wonderful post...Thank you...(19 October 2015): (Polk)...Wow...what a great love story....she was alone without her love for a long time.Can't say I knew much at all about President Polk and his wife so thank you for the history lesson. "I would love her until the sands of time had ceased their endless trickle.." sweet and true isn't it?"
Bernadette Barbour - Dublin, Ireland - (18 October 2015):"What a great new series and post. Will have to check out the first one. DiMaggio was so besotted with Marilyn, but she was lost in that Hollywood world. I do believe Marilyn's involvement with the Kennedy's was part of her downfall ...(19 October 2015): (Polk)"Thank you for the history lesson indeed. This lady certainly stood by her man."
Marsha McKneely Ault - Nacogdoches, Texas - (2 February 2016): "I am a romantic at heart. I so enjoyed this post Stanton."
Patrice Kohn- McKinney, Texas - (2 February 2016): "I certainly understand & thank you for sharing the link & history on Pres. Polk. Blessings to you Stan."
Judy Lemon Spooner- Oliveira do Hospital, Portugal- (2 February 2016): "From the great to the humble, love is the common thread - the most powerful of human needs and the strongest bond. I pity anyone who has not been touched by love - however painful, it is always a blessing."
Deb Apuli- Hopkins, Minnesota - (2 February 2016): "You are so blessed by the depth of your love for June."
After an almost 12 year journey into the shadows of Alzheimer's, early one morning in late October 2008, an exhausted June felt God's gentle touch on her shoulder and heard the words: "Come Home June!" As June lay like a wounded soldier on a battlefield, it was God's Angels that ushered June into a Heavenly Kingdom to the sound of a chorus of Angels...and into June's new home, a "Mansion on the Hilltop", where there is no pain, nor illness nor tears...June's funeral notice as published in the Minneapolis Star in October 2008 can be seen on this website in the drop down menu under the "In Memoriam" label - just Click on: